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We call these transferences because they contain—as indeed in one or another way all relationships do—an element of displacement; each member of a narcissistic coupling transfers onto the present relationship a quality of relating that existed in a primary relationship during early childhood. Thus, a boy who idealized his narcissistic mother will seek out a narcissistic wife, whom he will also idealize and in whose glow he will also bask. A girl who enjoyed a twinship relationship with her father, or perhaps with a brother, will seek out a similar relationship with a spouse.

The problem here is that if we are in a narcissistic relationship, whether twinship or idealizing, we do not truly bond with the other, but instead ally with an object who represents our ideal image of ourselves projected onto or mirrored by another person. Hence we never separate from the other (or from our parents) to form our own wholely independent self, and continually need to bolster our self-esteem in this way. Narcissists do not ask what they can do for others, but what others can do for them.

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